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Work

Look if you’re happy,
And you’ve got student loans,
And you’ve got mortgages,
And you work 2 jobs,
But you’re happy,
Good.

The problem is there are so many millions of people,
Just sitting around complaining,
And then they go play Madden for 4 hours.

Just set the record straight,
If you are listening,
And you are complaining,
Then you’ve got to audit yourself.

You can’t watch House of Cards,
You can’t play ball all day,
You can’t go to ballet shows,

You got to work.
~ Gary Vaynerchuk ~

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I’m All Woman

I am all woman.

I may yell and I may shout

But I am all woman.

Just because I am strong minded… does not mean I am angry.

Just because I voice my opinions… does not mean I am bitter.

I am all woman.

Just because I demand respect… does not mean I am being difficult.

Just because I share how I feel… does not mean I am weak.

Just because I wear “revealing” clothing… does not mean I ask to be violated!

I am all woman.

Just like you… I want to be heard.

Just like you…I want to be loved.

Just like you… I want to be respected.

I am not an object you can place on the shelf.

I am all woman.

I am not someone you can just walk over!

I am all woman.

I am your mother…

I am your sister…

I am your grandmother…

I am your wife…

I am girlfriend…

I am your friend.

I… AM…ALL…WOMAN!

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Swallow Me Whole

Lord, I’m trying.

All my life I never fitted in with others around me.

You’re too much of a good girl!

You’re a lame!

Try living a little!

They would say.

I don’t like being a outcast..

So I give in.

I give into the pressures of the world around me.

I’m not a lame!

I’m not a good girl!

I want to live!

Day by day… I am loosing myself.

Being like the world has consumed my soul.

How can I be in a room full of people, but still feel alone?

Lord, I’m trying.

I know right from wrong.

Yet, I choose wrong.

I so badly want to be in with the in crowed!

But, at what cost?

Lord, I’m trying!

My body wants to feel good.

But my soul is crying out for salvation!

Lord, I’m trying!

I don’t want to be loss anymore.

I don’t want to be like everyone else.

I want to be at peace!

Lord I’m trying!

I decided to hold my head high.

I decided to embrace the inner voice within me.

I decided to live and not die!

Lord…I’m…trying.

All I ask…

Is… to… never… give… up… on… me.

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Happy Monday!

It’s Monday!

A new day,

A new week,

A chance to start over.

It’s Monday!

Forget last week,

Forget the disappointments,

Forget the unmet goals.

It’s Monday!

Brush yourself off,

Recreate your goals,

Shift your mind.

It’s Monday!

Block out the world,

Block out the hatters,

And make your dreams your reality!

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Mountain

Happy Friday!

Here is some motivation for you and it is a great way to start the weekend 🙂

It’s as if they’re standing at the foot of a mountain,
And they have this abstract concept,
Called impact that they want to have in the world,
Which is the summit.

What they don’t see is the mountain.

I don’t care if you go up the mountain quickly or slowly,
But there’s still a mountain.

And so what this young generation needs to learn,
Is patience.

That some things that really Ignore matter,
Like love,
Or job fulfillment,
Joy,
Love of life,
Self-confidence,
A skillset,

Any of these things,
All of these things take time.

Sometimes you can expedite pieces of it,
But the overall journey,
Is arduous,
And long,
And difficult.

And if you don’t ask for help,
And learn that skillset,
You will fall off the mountain.
~ Simon Sinek ~

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Thank You!

Thank you for all of the broken promises you made. You taught me that a man is only good by the actions he shows.

Thank you for telling me to be realistic about my dreams and aspirations in life. You taught me to never settle in life and to hell what others say.

Thank you for walking out on me. You taught me to never depend on someone to always be there.

Thank you for the fake tears. You taught me that any living human being can fake a tear or two.

Thank your mom for telling me I was not good enough for you. You helped me to realize, it was in fact you who was not good enough for me.

Thank you for loving me incorrectly. You taught me love is when you love unselfishly.

Thank you for breaking my heart. You showed me to learn to love myself. Loving myself was the greatest gift I could ever give to my future, now current man.

Thank you for showing me all of the qualities I could never want in a man.

 

Sincerely yours truly,

 

Doing better without you!

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Consistency is Key

No matter what you decide to do in life, consistency is key!

I have been on this very long journey of obtaining a healthy life style. I have never had my mind fully made up and I wanted to lose weight for all of the wrong reasons.

“I hate my pudge.”

“I want to be skinny so all of the guys will want me…so he will want me.”

“Having a mid section is not attractive and my man will find someone who does not have it.”

“If I can just lose the weight, I will feel better about myself.”

“I’m tired of not fitting into my clothes.”

If you have felt this way about yourself, please keep reading.

When it comes to obtaining a healthy lifestyle, you have to decide why you are doing it. If it is to fit into some made up societal “norm” you will never be happy with who you are. I sat down one day and really evaluated why I wanted to lose weight. I quickly realized 99% of the reasons for wanting to lose weight was because, I wanted other peoples’ perception of me to change. I wanted to fit into that box society tries to place us all in.

The reason why I was not able to stay consistent with my journey was because, I was doing it for all of the wrong reasons.

I sat and thought long an hard about why I wanted to lose weight. One day,  I started to write in my journal the reasons for wanting to lose weight. The number one reason was to become healthy. I have a lot of work to do in my lifetime, and I will not be able to do so if I am constantly feeling tired due to my bad eating habits. I want to become the best version  of myself and I can only do so by staying consistent with my healthy lifestyle journey.

I will never be a size 2! And I am perfectly fine with that. I have curves and I am what I call “blessed in all the right areas,” and I am embracing that! My journey is not about losing weight to please others. My journey is about becoming the best version of myself!

When you make up in your mind why you are wanting to lose weight, you will get through the tough times. You will have enough strength to keep going on the days where you just want to sit in the house and eat a cupcake. If you remain consistent and develop healthy habits, you will be happy with the outcome!

 Let me know the weight loss/healthy goals you have!

We can help push and motivate one another 🙂

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You Made It!

Whew you made it through the first week of the year. Give yourself a pat on the back! 

I want you to take the weekend to reflect, recollect, and plan for the next week. To reach your goals, you have to constantly push yourself. You have to constantly challenge yourself.

If you did not accomplish your goal(s) this week, that is perfectly okay. You have this weekend to regroup and to try again.

You are not a failure if you keep trying. You only reach that failure status if you give up on yourself.

Remember, dust your heels off and get back to it!

Here is to the weekend and a wonderful rest of the year!

Happy Friday! 

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7 Starter Dating Tips

If you’re ready to get back into the dating world… check out some of my helpful tips below! 

  1. Determine if you are ready to seriously  date or are you looking to date for fun: Depending on which you decide would help to decipher which guys you would and would not go on a date with. If you are looking to settle down, than do not go on a date with men who are just looking for fun. This will cause you tons of frustrations in the long run and you will eventually have wasted your time dating Mr. Wrong.  
  2. When you go on your 1st date, do not and I mean do not tell your entire life story: The first date is a time where you are getting to know one another. You are listening to see if what he is saying matches up to someone you could potentially like enough to go on a second date with. Telling your entire story before he had the chance to preview the book, could turn him off. Which could lead him running for the hills. You will feel that you wasted your time because you have shared some intimate things about yourself with this individual and he just stopped calling.
  3. Learn to listen: You can usually tell a lot  about someone by the kind of conversations they have. If this person brings up sex several times and you have only been on 2 dates, chances are he just wants to get you in bed. 
  4. Do not play mind games: As women, we tend to assume our guy counterparts know what we are thinking, when in reality they don’t. If you have no intentions on going home with this person, then just be honest about it. Do not assume they know. Your date could be going very well and they can assume it will lead to the bedroom, when all you are doing is being polite. This can cause major conflict and you do not want the headache. 
  5. Be honest: before you can be honest with anyone else you have to learn to be honest with yourself. You have to know why you are going on dates and what you are hoping to get out of them. When you have been dating someone for x amount of time, at some point you have to state what you want. Whether it is a committed relationship or just a friendship. Either way, you need to be honest about it. This will help generate conversation to see where things are and if you both are on the same page. 
  6. Don’t be afraid to date more than one person: Yes, I said it. Dating more than one person can help you to understand what you are wanting in a romantic partner. If you have not made things official, then there is really no reason in being a loyal dating person. You are free to date other people. 
  7. Do not be afraid to walk out of a date: If your date is going horribly wrong, never be afraid to leave. You can always excuse yourself to the bathroom and head for the exit. Or you can have a close friend call you and tell the person you are on a date with that you have to leave due to an emergency. Please do not feel obligated to stay though a horrible date. You have every right to leave. 

There you have it! Those are what I call my 7 starter dating tips.

If you learn to be yourself and enjoy the dating scene, I am pretty confident you will enjoy dating! 

Let me know what you think! 

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Happy New Year!

I am wishing you all a very Happy New Year! I hope you enjoyed your weekend. I know I sure did 🙂

Today is Monday, which is the beginning of the week. You have two advantages today. 1 being it’s a fresh day and 2 being it’s a new year. With that being said, leave your excuses in yesterday.

Today, you start giving yourself a chance!

Today, you create the life you want!

Today, you stop making excuses!

Whatever you are wanting to do and or accomplish, start today. Nothing happens over night, but if you plant enough seeds and water them daily, you will be one day and step closer to your goals/dreams.

I did a vision board PowerPoint. I put together everything I wanted to accomplish in the next 3 years and the woman I am going to become. This helped me to visualize my goals. I not only created a vision board PowerPoint, but I am in the process of creating inspirational cards to put around my home. This will help to defeat any negative thoughts that comes to mind and to help me see the woman I would like to become.

Staying positive in a world where there is so much negativity can be very challenging. However, it can be done if you try. I want you to start this year off right and create a vision board of what your goals are and who you want to be in the next 3 years.

I want you to hang this board around your home or your work station as a daily reminder to keep going. You have to pray and claim the things you want, and if it is in Gods will for you…you will have everything you could hope for and more.

Lets vow to make this year a better one than the last!

Let me know what some of your goals are!

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