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Do I Trust You?

By definition trust means reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

My definition of trust is being able to be confident in the person you are in a committed relationship with. You are confident that they will take your feelings into consideration when doing things and they will not do things that will intentionally hurt you.

Trusting people in this era we are living in is very hard to do. With social media rising and everyone pretending to be something they are not, it is very difficult to believe people are genuine and honest. 

I know for me trusting someone is very hard for me to do. I have had my fair share of hurt, as many people have. However, when do I or we say enough is enough? When do we give people the benefit of the doubt?

Is it to much of a pain for us to believe that there are trustworthy people out there? Have we been through too much hurt for us to see that there are people who care about us?

I am a big believer of believing when someone shows you their true self. Which typically happens within the first 90 days. If they show you they are a liar…believe that. If they show you they are trustworthy…believe that.

We cannot walk around with the “I am a target” attitude. Because everyone is not the same! Everyone will not miss use or miss treat you. There are some great people out in the world!

When it comes to relationships…trust is huge! Without it, the relationship will not last.

Both parties has to take into consideration of the other persons feelings. If x tells you this makes me feel this way when you do this, believe them. Put the shoes on the other feet and make the needed adjustments for your relationship.

Relationships are a lot of work! And it takes God, communication, and trust to make it last a lifetime.

If you are hesitant to trust your partner, you have to ask yourself why. It could be something they are doing or something that you are doing to yourself. Either situation, you need to address and fix it for the health of your relationship.

Trusting someone with your most inner secrets and heart is a hard thing to do. However, if you are wanting to be this person, it is something you are going to have to learn to do.

Besides, how can you truly love someone…if you don’t trust them?

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Love without limits

We have all suffered a heart break. Some more than others. We are all guilty of holding on to that hurt and taking our pain out on the people that are undeserving. Unfortunately, it is the bad experiences that we hold on to and it is because of those bad experiences we put restrictions on our ability to truly love someone. 

We all on some level crave love. We want to be loved by that man or woman that peaks our interest. We want them to see us for who we really are and not what we portray ourselves to be. However, it is the fear of being rejected by this individual, that we decide to put limits to our love.

When you truly love someone…there are no limits.

You don’t limit yourself to how much of you reveal about who you really are. You don’t limit yourself to the amount of things you do for them. Because, overall making them happy will make you happy.

You are more than a romantic partner to them.

You are their friend…

You are their shoulder to cry on…

You are their support system…

You are their diary…

You are their voice of reason. 

Loving someone without limits is not losing sight of who you are. It’s embracing who God created you to be and not being afraid to share that with someone who is deserving of your love.

We have to be careful to not let our past hurts impact our current relationships. Because, truth is… everyone is different. Not every man or woman will hurt you in the same way the previous person did. In most cases, it’s not even the person we are involved with…it’s us. We as human beings have patterns, and we have dating patterns.

When we allow ourselves to love someone who is deserving of our love without limits, we experience the true beauty of being in love and love itself.

I want you to get rid of all of your negative thoughts about love. Get rid of all of the past hurt. Forgive the person(s) who has wronged and hurt you. If you are unable to do this on your own, that is perfectly fine. You are always able to call on God to show you how to move forward. He is always here to help you get through any obstacle in your life.

When you truly let go of everything and everyone that has hurt you, you will be able to love without limits. You will adopt a positive attitude about love and dating. 

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Motivational Monday

I hope everyone had a excellent Monday!

I thought I would share this video with you, because it is a great way to finish or start your day (depending on your schedule and location in the world).

I know this is the beginning of the week and depending on how last week went, you may need a spice of inspiration!

The biggest life lesson that I have learned and still grasping is don’t dwell on the things that are outside of your control, and learn to accept things for the way that they are.

If last week did not go as planned, that’s okay. You have another 6 days in front of you to try again. Don’t be afraid to fail or to try again, because no one gets it right the first time around.

You only have one life to live! Don’t live it regretting the things that you did not do, or beating yourself up for things not going as planned.

Don’t you know God is always in control?

Don’t you know you will get through it?

Don’t you know if you keep pushing through the challenges, you will eventually get the rewards?

Nothing and I mean nothing in life worth having is going to come easy. But, I promise if you endure to the end and count on God, you will see the reward. 

So I want you to dust off your shoes and shoulders and try again!

Remember, giving up is never an option!

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Motivational Monday

Happy Monday guys!

I hope your Monday is going fine and dandy 🙂

As you may know from previous posts, I get some inspiration delivered directly to my email.

I love Eric Thomas! He is an amazing speaker and he is very inspiring!

I figured I would share with you one of his inspirational quotes today! Check it out below:

Muscle:

Work on yourself.
Work on your focus.

You cannot stop.
You got to work.
The problem with you,
Is you see difficult,
As something negative.

I want you to see difficult differently.

I need you to push through that stuff.
Push through it!

You can get through it.

The more you go through,
The more difficult it is,
The more challenging it is,
The harder it is,

All you’re doing baby
Is building muscle!

-Eric Thomas.

I always feel that when I read inspiring quotes or sayings in the morning, evening, or night, it helps with my day. I have decided to do 4 days of inspiration about life in general.

Within the next 3 days, I hope to inspire you to become a better version of yourself, to get all that God has for you, and to go after your dreams!

If you would like to receive a email notification  or are needing words of encouragement in a certain area, please follow me or send me a email. That way I can make sure I am addressing the area of need for you.

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Love Thy Neighbor

We are living in a time where people have become obsessed with “self”. People are more concerned with what others can do for them, then what they can do for others.

Now, I am not saying forget about taking care of you. Lets face it, if you don’t take care of yourself or truly love yourself, how can you care and love someone else?

People now walk with their heads stuck in the cloud not caring about who they hurt or the lives they impact. When we become a country that is solely consumed with self, we become a country full of hate and a country that is not trusting of anyone. 

There is nothing wrong…You will not die if you say hi to someone. You will survive if you help someone in need. You will be okay if you provide someone with a hug. 

Imagine if you spoke or was kind to someone who was seconds away from committing suicide and by you saying, “hi, how is your day going”,changed their minds to end their life. How would that make you feel?

Imagine if you showed someone kindness when they showed you nothing by ugliness, and later down the line God blessed you with that job you were wanting because of your good deed and pure intentions. How would that make you feel?

We have gotten into this mindset of only helping and loving people that help and love us back. Don’t you know God loves us even when we don’t love him? Don’t you know your parents help and care about you even when you are rude and disrespectful? We need to break this mindset of “self” and get back to a “us” or “we” mindset.

When we truly become selfless and have pure intentions behind our actions, our lives will go 1,000 times better. You will feel better about yourself and life as a whole. Love is not about what someone can do for you…it’s about what we can do for one another.

Lets start loving and caring about everyone in this world. You never know who may need it!

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Just Live Ya Life

Life has a way of making us freak out over things that are outside of our control. I know I am guilty of over stressing about things in my life that are completely out of my control. I have recently discovered that by me behaving this way, I am basically telling God that I do not believe his word. I know for one, that is not the kind of message I want to give off to God.

Recently at work, I did not perform as high as I normally would. Given, the entire time I have been working for this company I have always been one of the top 3 performers. So you can imagine to my surprise when this month ended, that I did not meet the teams performance goal.

No one, and I mean no one is as hard on me as I am on myself. I work very hard in everything that I do and I excel at everything I set my mind to. To not meet the team performance metric I was devastated! I started becoming highly upset about the situation, and I started questioning everything I did after college. I allowed the negative thoughts to invade my mind and to cause me to become upset about something that was outside of my control.

When I finally took time to calm down, I realized sometimes you just have bad months. If I can honestly say I did my best, then that is all that matters.

We have to learn to just live our lives and not let the small things get in the way of our happiness. 

Life is going to happen whether or not you are ready for it. It’s not so much about what happens in life, it is more about how we respond to what has happened in our lives.

I could of had easily let last month impact my performance for this month, but I decided to let it go and move forward. When we let God be in control of our lives, we tend to have a better mindset and response for when things do not go as we had planed. The reason is because we know God is always in control and nothing is impossible for him!

We only get one life to live and I don’t want you all to live it worrying about things that are outside of your control. Just take life and its obstacles by the horns and roll with the punches.

You will and can get through it!

As long as you are doing your best and not doing any harm to anyone else… just remember to life ya life!

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