I know if you are anything like me, you have a pattern.
Most human beings have a dating pattern and I am here to tell you that we need to kick that bad habit to the side!
I was reading this one post, and it talked about how we tend to date the same kind of people and we date how we see ourselves.
At first, I disagreed with what they were saying. However, after looking over my last relationships, I found some truth to what the post was saying.
We tend to develop patterns and habits (good or bad) over time without knowing it.
No worries though, I am going to give you 3 tips on how to kick Mr. Bad Habit to the curve.
1. Start building yourself up.
When you feel crappy about yourself or you feel that you don’t deserve someone great, you tend to settle for a loser. When you love who you are and you know longer need someone else to define who you are, then you start to date people who have more to offer. Tell yourself that you are beautiful…smart….worth it. Repeat after me, “I AM GORGEOUS. I AM DRIVEN. I AM A GO GETTER. I AM WORTH IT!
2. Focus on yourself.
This is something I had to learn. It took me a while, but I finally grasped the concept. I always had goal that I put together and by the grace of God, I accomplished all of the goals I set for myself thus far. When you start focusing on yourself and you figure out the kind of woman you want to become, you tend to not settle for anything less. You start to notice your Mr. Bad Habits and you start to put a stop to the pattern.
I have been doing a lot of reading lately, probably more than usual. I have been reading all kinds of books, spiritual, business, history, etc. Within all of the texts I have read, I have been praying and soul searching. I decided on the kind of woman that I want to be in the future and the kind of woman I want to be six months from now.
I no longer wanted to be a woman who needed a man to define them. I no longer wanted to be a woman who let the validation of people make or break them. I no longer wanted to date men who had nothing to offer me. I wanted to be a God fearing woman. I wanted to be a woman who did not need no one to define who they are and what they would achieve in their lifetime. I wanted to be a woman who did not need a man to complete them, because they were already complete in God. I wanted to be a woman who decided what success meant to them and who went after their dreams. I wanted to be a woman who said what she was going to do and did not care what anyone else had to say about it.
When you take time to really focus on yourself and figure out what you want in life, you no longer deal with men or people who cannot add to your life. You become selfish with you and your time. When you reach that level, Mr. bad habit has no room to stay.
3. Remember to take it day by day.
Nothing! I mean nothing happens over night. Bad habits are just that…bad habits. It takes time to undue and to get rid of our bad habits. However, when you have a made up mind to get rid of them, in time your Mr. Bad Habit will be no more. You have to decide on the kind of person you want to be and you have to decide what you will and will no tolerate. Of course no one is perfect. We are imperfectly flawed. However, you do not need someone in your life who is going to take from you. You need a man that will add to your life. You have to believe that one day, you won’t be dating the same way or loving the same way. Just take it day by day. In the words of Jordan Sparks, ” take it one step at a time”.
Say goodby to Mr. Bad Habit and hello to better matches!
Let me know what you think!
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